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Thursday

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February 2015

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Here Come the Brides! The Engagement, Part 2

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This is the fourth post in the “Here Come the Brides!” series, following my adventures with Casey to the aisle. Here’s what’s happened so far: How We Met How We Knew & What We Do The Engagement, Part 1 Today’s post is our (second) engagement story! Choosing investment Casey wore the ring that was a commitment to and from our family, and we couldn’t wait to be married. But after several months of my renting a house that the kids could never quite feel was home, and with Casey’s apartment lease about to end, we had a hard decision to […]

Tuesday

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February 2015

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Here Come the Brides! The Engagement, Part 1

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This is the third post in the “Here Come the Brides!” series, following my adventures with Casey to the aisle. If you missed them, here’s the story of how we met, and here’s how we knew this was The One and what we love to do together. Today’s post is our (first) engagement story! Finding family We knew by the second day we were together, this was it. By the second week we were together, we both admitted it to each other. We’d both been skeptical of the idea that “when you know, you know,” but we knew. Since I […]

Friday

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February 2015

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Wanted: Your Poetic Opinions

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I’ve had a book of poetry in the works for a few years. I keep adding to it (2 new poems just today– inspiration like whoa!), and I’ll admit: I’m pretty psyched on it. But when it comes to putting it out, I always get hung up: Typically, publishers aren’t super into hawking verse-y lines of personal feels, so I’m pretty much on my own. Do I just do a cheap e-book? Do I slave over handmade chapbooks? I don’t know what the poetry aficionados want from me! So basically, I do what I always do in such moments of […]

Thursday

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February 2015

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Here Come the Brides! How We Knew & What We Do

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This is the second post in the “Here Come the Brides!” series, following my adventures with Casey to the aisle. If you missed it, the story of how we met is here. Today’s post is about how we knew this relationships was The One and what we love to do together when we’re not busy living life with our beautiful family. How we knew this relationship was The One We are each other’s best: Friend, lover, partner, spiritual mate, support. We have disagreements and arguments, especially during stressful times, but we have committed to fighting alongside—not against—each other for our […]

Tuesday

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February 2015

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Here Come the Brides! How We Met

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I feel like I talk about her all the time, but in case you missed the news: Casey and I are engaged! We will be getting [legally!!!] married in October at a beautiful bed and breakfast in our town. By the time we get married, we will have been together for two years, but it already feels like we’ve known each other forever. I’d love for you to get to know us as a couple too, so I’ll be sharing our story up through our wedding in a new series of posts called Here Come the Brides! This is the […]

Monday

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February 2015

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Confession of a Bleeding-Heart, Utterly Useless White Ally

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I’ve started and stopped writing my desperate, helpless thoughts on America’s Goddamned Problem with Black People a handful of times these last few months. Because what can I say? I’m a middle class white woman. My words are low on the priority list of what people need to hear right now. So I’ve been listening a lot. Chiming in only with support. Sharing Facebook posts of my black friends and retweeting the words of black thinkers so that anyone who might listen to my privileged voice might hear instead the voices of the choking, the gasping, the righteously fucking furious. […]

Tuesday

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January 2015

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How to Be a Writer

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The small man Builds cages for everyone He Knows. While the sage, Who has to duck his head When the moon is low, Keeps dropping keys all night long For the Beautiful Rowdy Prisoners. –Hafiz The plan for January was to blog my ass off. There’s a format for being a writer, you know, and it goes something like this: Blog, blog, doubt yourself, blog, promote, promote, hate yourself, promote, platform-build, platform-build, avoid yourself, platform-build, repeat ad nauseum, publisher-court, publisher-court, sell yourself, publisher-court, get lucky–maybe–and then what? So I posted nothing at all til mid-month. I did it for years, […]

Wednesday

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December 2014

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Fixed Hearts

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I wonder how many who tout “reparative therapy” have ever tried it themselves, have worked on their hearts and changed orientation so that they are fixed on love.

Wednesday

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November 2014

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They Call Her Mama

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Pride Family

I’m happy to be making my debut on the Family channel of A Deeper Story today with this special glimpse of my life and the ones I love. I have big hopes for what you might see. Will you come tell me? Read They Call Her Mama

Thursday

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October 2014

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You Are Whole

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Photo credit: R. Nial Bradshaw 2013

Of all the people I had to come out to, the most difficult one was me. Can you imagine how it feels to not know the truth about your own self? Let me tell you: There is no fear so terrible as not knowing the person who is your own soul. But Jesus knew. And he was so good to me about it, because of course he was. I’d love to share this piece of my journey with you today at A Deeper Story.