Tamára Lunardo

Author & Editor



September 2011



Call for Responses to “What’s a Girl Worth?”

Written by , Posted in faith, life, Uncategorized, writing

When I wrote “What’s a Girl Worth?” on Monday I couldn’t anticipate the widespread, profound response it received. It resonated with women, and also men, who had struggled to believe their own worth; it struck men, and also women, who realized the impact of their attitudes; it stirred compassion and righteous anger across genders.

But my stories are not so terribly special. The biggest difference between mine and those tucked into the heart of the person next to you in line at the grocery store is that I tell them. I have learned silence is deathly to the heart– speaking truth brings life.

The comments, tweets, and blog posts that sprung up in response were treasures– but they were scattered. I want to invite you to help gather them together here. What you write may give voice to another wounded heart; it may finally give voice to your own. What you write may challenge someone to a personal revival; it may push you to begin your own.

This Friday I will put up a “linky” post so that you can contribute to and be encouraged by a collection of stories and thoughts that reflect on either of the original post’s questions: What’s a girl [or woman] worth? and Have you ever struggled to believe what you’re worth when God and the world disagree?

Please feel free to write from any honest perspective. Posts by women and men are equally necessary in this conversation; stories of feeling alone and stories of feeling defended are just as valuable; reflections on ways you have torn down others and on ways you can build them up are both important. You never know who might be challenged or encouraged by your particular point of view. (And neither will they til you tell it.)

If you’ve already written a response post, please be sure to come back to link up on Friday. If you don’t have a blog or your blog isn’t an appropriate forum for this topic, you will be invited to put your story in the comments section of Friday’s post. (If you prefer, you can post anonymously this way, too.)

Please use the Twitter, Facebook, or other share buttons at the bottom of this post to get the word out. The stories are out there– we need you to tell them.

Are you in?

  • http:/sarahaskins.com sarahaskins

    I loved your “What’s a Girl Worth” post, and I love this idea. But I especially love your heart.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you, friend. xo

  • http://whoivealwaysbeen.blogspot.com Carolyn


    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      You can do it. I’m here for you.

  • http://angrycomedian.wordpress.com Kriss Sprules

    I finally got to read the original article and tweeted it. Those were some beautiful words, Tamara. They struck a chord with me, resonating with things I often notice and think about.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you. I hope you’ll write some of those thoughts to share.

      • http://angrycomedian.wordpress.com Kriss Sprules

        I’d be happy to, as soon as the cue is given 🙂

  • Bryan

    Having seen only bits & pieces of stories – I’m excited to see what’s here on Friday.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Me too. Thank you for how you love and support me.

  • http://www.alise-write.com Alise

    I think it’s crazy how different our stories are and yet how they leave at their core the same damn question. What am I worth? Can I be seen?

    Thank you for pushing me. Healing hurts so much, but it’s so necessary.

    Love you bunches.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I push because I love. Your story is worth it. YOU are worth it.

  • http://www.tonyjalicea.com tonyalicea

    I don’t usually share videos in comments but I thought this was brilliantly appropriate:

    • http://www.alise-write.com Alise

      I love this one. Beautiful.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Awesome. Can’t wait to read your thoughts, Tony.

      • http://www.tonyjalicea.com Tony J. Alicea

        Just finished my post. Wow, I’m glad I did that. Thank you for doing this, T.

        • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara


    • http://therunamuck.com Amber Haines

      Sarah Kay and this poem is one of my all all all time favorites! Good call here.

  • http://www.veronicamonique.com Veronica Monique

    It is awful how we can feel as a result of the confusion, complexity and diversity of experiences of growing into ourselves. And how others treat us only compounds the struggle. Wanting to be sexy, but not sexualized. Wanting to be wanted, not just processed. Wanting to be understood, not just tolerated. Wanting to be cared for, loved, accepted without pretense or condition. Your “What’s a Girl Worth?” speaks to all that.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I would love to see these thoughts fleshed out in a post. 🙂

  • http://corycopeland.wordpress.com Cory Copeland

    Please feel free to use my post from yesterday, Tamara. That’s what it’s there for.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Yours was one of the posts that inspired this idea. I hope you’ll be first in line to link up on Friday!

      • http://corycopeland.wordpress.com Cory Copeland

        Believe it, sister.

  • http://leighkramer.com/ HopefulLeigh

    Your words have been meandering through my mind since reading the post yesterday. If I can come up with a coherent response, I will definitely link up! It’s been encouraging to read the Tweets and comments in response so far.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks for taking time to think about it. I hope you will write.

  • http://reconcilingviewpoints.wordpress.com reconciling viewpoints

    Good job, kiddo. Anytime a discussion helps people work through their old pains and hurts, it’s a good thing…. and this definitely doing that.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you. Hope you’ll share some of the thoughts you left in your comment & tweet.

  • http://www.mysinglemamalife.com Nikki

    Shoot! Now I’m going to have to push past the ‘gotta write about it’ to actually WRITING about it! Thank you for the challenge. I know there will be healing in it.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Yes! So glad you’re taking it on.

  • http://rom12two.wordpress.com Victoria

    “The biggest difference between mine and those tucked into the heart of the person next to you in line at the grocery store is that I tell them. I have learned silence is deathly to the heart– speaking truth brings life.”

    Thank you Tamara. So often I silence myself, feeling like no one would be interested in my thoughts. But you are correct, silence is death and I have been wrapping my heart in grave clothes for far too long.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I am interested in your thoughts. Shake off that shroud and write. 🙂

  • http://baristabruce.wordpress.com brooskolin

    Thanks Tamara! Wow… I just wrote a response and will link it tomorrow. As a child, I was abused sexually – something I only dealt with as a late teenager. Now, as a father, the story I am living is for my daughters to know and understand their worth and to experience, through me, unconditional love!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I am so sorry you experienced that abuse. Thank you for loving your daughters well and for being willing to share your story with us.

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  • http://bindubalan.wordpress.com bindu

    Tamara, thank for you writing this post and then creating a place for others to come and share their stories…What an amazing way for God to work in so many lives.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you– it’s my honor.

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