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Thursday

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March 2015

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Here Come the Brides! How My Devout Christian Mom Feels About My Lesbian Wedding

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The “Here Come the Brides!” series follows my adventures with Casey to the aisle. Here’s what’s happened so far: How We Met                                                                            How My Wedding Ring Found Me How We Knew & What We Do                                         How We Found a Minister to Gay-Christian Marry Us The […]

Tuesday

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March 2015

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Here Come the Brides! How My Devout Christian Mom Feels About Having a Gay Kid

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The “Here Come the Brides!” series follows my adventures with Casey to the aisle. Here’s what’s happened so far: How We Met How We Knew & What We Do The Engagement, Part 1 The Engagement, Part 2 How My Wedding Ring Found Me How We Found a Minister to Gay-Christian Marry Us Today’s post is the first half of an interview with my devout Christian mom about how it feels to have a gay kid getting married. A long-time reader asked a great question on a previous post in the Brides series—he wanted to know how my mom felt about my […]

Thursday

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March 2015

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Here Come the Brides! How We Found a Minister to Gay-Christian Marry Us

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This is the sixth post in the “Here Come the Brides!” series, following my adventures with Casey to the aisle. Here’s what’s happened so far: How We Met How We Knew & What We Do The Engagement, Part 1 The Engagement, Part 2 How My Wedding Ring Found Me Today’s post is the story of how we found the perfect minister to officiate our gay-Christian wedding. When it came to deciding on an officiant for our wedding, it sort of didn’t matter—Florida hadn’t legalized same-sex marriage yet, so no ceremony we did here would be official anyway. Except that’s not […]

Tuesday

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March 2015

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Taste Again and Remember: Thoughts on (not quite) losing the ones we love

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I’m making this pot roast from a recipe my Gram Rena gave me years ago. I can’t remember if she dictated it or if I copied her own handwritten card onto one of my own, but either way, I can hear her voice and see her personality in every line. I’m fighting tears with every chop—and I haven’t even gotten to the onions. My Gram has dementia—and I miss her every time I remember something of hers that she cannot. She isn’t gone yet, but somehow she is. When her mind began to fail, she would get frustrated because there […]

Monday

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February 2015

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Confession of a Bleeding-Heart, Utterly Useless White Ally

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I’ve started and stopped writing my desperate, helpless thoughts on America’s Goddamned Problem with Black People a handful of times these last few months. Because what can I say? I’m a middle class white woman. My words are low on the priority list of what people need to hear right now. So I’ve been listening a lot. Chiming in only with support. Sharing Facebook posts of my black friends and retweeting the words of black thinkers so that anyone who might listen to my privileged voice might hear instead the voices of the choking, the gasping, the righteously fucking furious. […]

Tuesday

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January 2015

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How to Be a Writer

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The small man Builds cages for everyone He Knows. While the sage, Who has to duck his head When the moon is low, Keeps dropping keys all night long For the Beautiful Rowdy Prisoners. –Hafiz The plan for January was to blog my ass off. There’s a format for being a writer, you know, and it goes something like this: Blog, blog, doubt yourself, blog, promote, promote, hate yourself, promote, platform-build, platform-build, avoid yourself, platform-build, repeat ad nauseum, publisher-court, publisher-court, sell yourself, publisher-court, get lucky–maybe–and then what? So I posted nothing at all til mid-month. I did it for years, […]

Thursday

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October 2014

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You Are Whole

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Photo credit: R. Nial Bradshaw 2013

Of all the people I had to come out to, the most difficult one was me. Can you imagine how it feels to not know the truth about your own self? Let me tell you: There is no fear so terrible as not knowing the person who is your own soul. But Jesus knew. And he was so good to me about it, because of course he was. I’d love to share this piece of my journey with you today at A Deeper Story.

Friday

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September 2014

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What Your Selfie REALLY Says About You

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My tween daughter shared a selfie on Facebook, and what caught me was her eyes. The comments rolled in — “gorgeous! so pretty!” — and they were true. But they didn’t tell her the whole truth. So I will. Join me at A Deeper Story today to learn what your selfie REALLY says about you.

Friday

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August 2014

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We All Face the Sun Together

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I saw the sand. I saw my own melting-pot family. I saw a topless young mom and her son. I saw the water. I saw an old southern man. I saw an Indian toddler. I saw couples in love. I saw the sun. I saw God at the beach one late afternoon. I’d love for you to join me at A Deeper Story today so you can see too. Photo: Patricia Baumann (c) 2014

Wednesday

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June 2014

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You Can’t Keep Me Out

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Christianity in general (and Evangelicalism in particular) has a great many vocal, self-proclaimed gatekeepers. They employ a range of scare tactics and subtleties, but the message is the same: “We” are in; “you” are out. This has long been the way of the Christian; it has never been the way of the Christ. Join me today at A Deeper Story for my short piece of spoken word poetry, You Can’t Keep Me Out.