Tamára Lunardo

Author & Editor



November 2011



On This Day

Written by , Posted in life

I’ve always liked my birthday. In New England, where I grew up, it was in the season we called autumn, which has always sounded to me richer and more beautiful than fall, when the leaves crunched satisfactorily under my feet, the air was crisp and delicious, and the trees formed row upon row of metaphor with their deep and vibrant changing colors. And, like the season, my birthday always brought me delight because my mother made it what every birthday should be: A day to very intentionally celebrate life and lavish love.

And even at 32, contrary to unspoken rules of grown-womanhood, I still like my birthday. I am still all for life and love. (I wouldn’t turn away a decadent birthday cake either.)

So when I overheard a piece of my son’s online history lesson, I was surprised and saddened.  I had no idea that November 9th was the date of Kristallnacht, the Night of Broken Glass. Forty-one years before I was born, the Holocaust began. A day to very intentionally destroy life and spew hate.


In my melancholy quiet, I thought about the devastation of that day and of the years that followed it, of the real evil that humans inflicted upon their fellow humans. And I thought that November 9th was starting to sound like a really shitty day to come into the world for a baby girl who would be all for life and love.

But then I remembered my tenth birthday. Across the ocean from a little New Englander who was jumping in leaf piles, excited to finally be a “double-digit midget,” there were people tearing down a wall of oppression, climbing over to freedom, and embracing family members for the first time in decades. A day to very intentionally celebrate life and lavish love.

I’m fond of saying, “I’m here to help” because once in a while it lends itself to my sarcastic humor but mostly because I believe it. So I thought about my birthday this year and the small ways I might make it for people within my reach not a day of broken glass and flames but of torn-down walls and embraces.

And the trees were autumnal-colored metaphors.


Also on November 9th:

  • 1872, The Great Boston Fire
  • 1964, “Pepa” of Salt-N-Pepa is born
  • 1967, First edition of Rolling Stone Magazine is published

What historical events took place on your birthday? Do you share a birthday with anyone interesting? Surely you can do better than my “Pepa.” 

(You can find out by searching the day and month on Wikipedia.)

  • Sara

    Happy Birthday! I share my Birthday (1 Aug) with Francis Scott Key (he wrote the Star Spangled Banner) and Jerry Garcia!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Wow, you’re in the company of some great songwriters!

  • http://princesstejaswi3.wordpress.com Princess Tejaswi

    HaPpY bIrThDaY..!! 🙂

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you!

  • http://scream911.wordpress.com scream911

    1) Happy Birthday!
    2) Cool people are born in November.
    3) Mine’s tomorrow.
    4) Here are cool things:
    • Hachiko is born (that cool, famous dog)
    • Martin Luther is born
    • Apple resellers start selling iPods.
    5) I trust today and the year ahead is full of life.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Happy birthday to you tomorrow!

  • http://stryka66.wordpress.com stryka66

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY – have a good one

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, I will!

  • Krystle

    Happy Birthday! Love this post! I share my birthday with one of my favorite interesting people, my mom. I also share my birthday with Eddie Van Halen and Ellen DeGeneres.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, Krystle. How cool that you share your day with your mom!

  • http://up2randomthoughts.wordpress.com Phil

    Lovely sentiments for this day. Wishing you a most Happy Birthday indeed. May you have many, many, many more like this one.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks so much, Phil.

  • Bryan

    Happy Birthday, my beautiful wife.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara


  • http://sewinharmony.wordpress.com Harmony

    I share a birthday with Alf. I let you decide if that is better or worse than Pepa.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Hahahaha! Alf wins, hands down.

  • John

    Happy birthday!

    I share mine (April 8) with Gautama Boeddha and I try my utmost best to live by huis principles.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks! It’s neat that you share a birthday with someone you really admire. (And how funny that WordPress turned your number and parenthesis into a sunglasses face!)

  • Barbara Luehring

    My daughter shared her birthday with you. She always signed her letters “Love and Laughter, Laura”. We will be celebrating her birthday tonight.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      “Love and laughter.” Wonderful ways to leave your mark.

  • http://www.alise-write.com Alise

    Happy birthday! So very glad to know you!

    June 28, 1969 was the beginning of the Stonewall Riots in NYC, marking the real beginning of the gay rights movement.

    Also, in 1997, Mike Tyson bit off Evander Holyfield’s ear. So there’s that.

    I do, however, share my birthday with Kathy Bates, which makes her even MORE perfect to play me in the movie about my life. Provided she never gets any older.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      How fitting that the gay rights movement began on what would become your birthday. We’ll have to make sure Kathy’s movie includes that detail. 😀

  • http://christiannoob.wordpress.com The Christian Noob (n00b)

    first, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
    second, check your post…

    • http://christiannoob.wordpress.com The Christian Noob (n00b)

      what else happened on 11/09…. fairly busy day 🙂

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks! Okay, help me out– what am I missing?

  • http://velourblog.blogspot.com/ Jodie_Velour

    this is so, so good. i love my birthday for purely selfish reasons and have never dug deeper to celebrate other things that didn’t directly involve me, except for the fact that my identical twin sister was born that day too and i love her as much as i love myself.

    but i’ll google it just for fun:
    on october 9th
    1930 – Aviator Laura Ingalls became the first woman to make a solo transcontinental flight across the United States.
    1872 – The first mail order catalog was delivered. It was only one page but it worked. No, it wasn’t the Victoria’s Secret catalog … nor Land’s End, J. Crew or Lillian Vernon. It was sent out by Mr. Aaron Montgomery Ward of the famous Montgomery Ward catalog and department stores.

    other births:
    1873 Charles Rudolph Walgreen, “the father of the modern drugstore.”
    1940 John Lennon, English musician, one of the Beatles.
    1979 my twin sister, lover of my soul and friend to the death

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Between being born on John Lennon’s birthday and having a twin, I’d say you really lucked out!

  • http://ordinarilyextraordinary.com/ Amy Nabors

    Happy Birthday! Oh and I love using autumn instead of fall also.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks! I never hear it in FL. 🙁 I’m bringin’ it back!

  • http://worldlymaret.wordpress.com Maret

    Happy Birthday!
    I like your tip on looking up what happened on your birthday. I found a similar funny a while ago that you might like. So I’m telling it, as a birthday gift 🙂 Check what your birthday-anthem is! http://worldlymaret.wordpress.com/2010/11/12/what-is-your-anthem-song/

    p.s. I agree muchly on the statement that “autumn” sounds a lot better than “fall”.

    p.p.s. Another tip for your birthday: watch A Day in Life. Inspiring, to see what happens in a day!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Oh, that’s a fun idea! The #1 song on Nov. 9, 1979 was “Heartache Tonight” by the Eagles. Hopefully that doesn’t say something terribly indicting about me. 😛

  • Anonymous

    I was born on November 28, 1046-Thanksgiving Day!! Now, my birthday does not always fall on Thanksgiving but I am always reminded at how thankful I am to God for the gift of life!! BTW, I live in North Georgia and we are blessed with the same beautiful autumn trees/leaves/colors and I agree, autumn sounds better than fall. Blessings!!

  • Anonymous

    That’s 1946-sorry. I’m old but not that old.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      So funny! I was wondering… 🙂

    • http://reconcilingviewpoints.wordpress.com reconciling viewpoints

      Wow…. the day you were born (Thanksgiving, 1946) was the day my grandfather passed away. Went to the doctor on his day off for the holiday because he wasn’t feeling well, had an aneurism pop and was gone. My dad was only 16 at the time, the 5th of 7 kids.
      But hey, not trying to be a “downer” on your birthday here, Tamara! If you were a contemporary, you would’ve wanted to be a friend of my grandfather because he worked for Pabst and could’ve gotten you a good supply cheap! Granddad worked for Pabst and 4 of his kids worked followed his lead to the breweries as well – 2 Bud, 1 Schlitz and my dad at Miller. (There’s a reason alcoholism runs in my family and I’ve been on the wagon for 20+ years!)

      So Tamara, if you happen to give a tilt to one of your favorite PBRs today (rather than a diet Pepsi… ahem), you can drink in honor of those that gave their all to ensure that you’d have a frothy treat for celebrating!

      And Anonymous, it would be weird to be born on Thanksgiving and never have it on your birthday anymore! (It used to be 4th Thursday in November, now its’ the 3rd…. no more Thanksgiving birthdays for you!)

      • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

        Awesome that you’ve been sober 20 years, friend. I love how open you are in sharing your story and how graciously you refrain from judging others. *Hugs.*

  • http://gravatar.com/hagermank Ken Hagermank

    Happy Birthday
    Mine is May 19th
    – the infamous “Happy Birthday” sung by Marilyn Monroe to JFK.
    -birthday of Johns Hopkins, Albert Fish(serial killer), Ho Chi Minh (Vietnamese leader), Pol Pot (Cambodia killing fields fame), Pete Townsend (The Who), Andre the Giant (wrestler),

    Thanks for that. I was redeemed from the dictators and serial killers by the wrestler and the rocker.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Hahahaha! Plus you get to have your birthday song sung in a sexy voice. 🙂

  • http://thisgalsjourney.wordpress.com Jennifer

    I San my birthday with someone very interesting indeed: YOU!! So, I’m sending you love and blessings from the Emerald Isle while I look across the bay at the Cliffs of Insanity (yeah, I said it). As they say here, ta breithla shona duit agus beaneachtai De go leor ortsa! (happy birthday and God’s blessing on you).

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Aw, happy birthday to you too! And thank you for the Celtic blessing!

  • http://thisgalsjourney.wordpress.com Jennifer

    I SAN my birthday??? Ugh. :head desk:

  • http:/sarahaskins.com sarahaskins

    Happy Birthday to another November child!

    My birthday, Nov. 5th was made famous in V for Vendetta. I took all of the “Remember, Remember Nov. 5th” as reminders to buy me presents, bake cakes, and celebrate my birthday.

    It is also Guy Fawkes day, international fig day, and a part of drum week.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Haha, perfect! “Remember, remember” to celebrate Sarah!

  • Hannah

    Whoopi Goldberg was born.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Love her, love you. Perfect.

  • http://leighkramer.com/ HopefulLeigh

    What a varied history this day holds! I do remember that Kristallnacht and the fall of the Berlin Wall happened on the same day years apart, which seemed poetic justice.

    I wasn’t aware of how January 10 stacked up. There appeared to be a lot of divorces, beheadings, wars started, and wars ended that day, including the enactment of the Treaty of Versailles which effectively ended World War I. Also, George Ryan, then governor of IL commuted the death sentences of 167 inmates. I still lived in IL at the time (but forgot this happened on my birthday!) and it was quite scandalous, especially since he was trying to throw everyone off from his corruption trial.

    As far as birthdays, the literary nerd in me was happy to see that Laura Ingalls Wilder’s dad and sister were both born on January 10. I also share the day with Sal Mineo, Frank Sinatra Jr., Rod Stewart, and Pat Benatar.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Well, love is a battlefield. 😀

  • http://www.joyinthisjourney.com Joy @ Joy In This Journey

    February 19–
    1940 – Smokey Robinson, American singer, born
    1941 – David Gross, American physicist, Nobel laureate, born
    1963 – The publication of Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique reawakens the Feminist Movement in the United States as women’s organizations and consciousness raising groups spread.
    1986 – The Soviet Union launches its Mir spacecraft
    1955 – Jeff Daniels, American actor, born
    1967 – Benicio del Toro, Puerto Rican actor, born

    My birthday is awesome.

    Happy birthday!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I love that you share a birthday with the Feminine Mystique. 🙂

      • http://www.joyinthisjourney.com Joy @ Joy In This Journey

        ME TOO! 🙂 (I’m cooler than I thought!)

  • http://gravatar.com/belovedjoy Amy Hunt — a {Grace} full *life*

    What a great approach! And, Happy Birthday!

    (mine is this week, too–November 11, also an *important* day…and I always liked my birthday for the autumn leave crunching, too…and…I turn 32, too! we’re sisters at heart, Tamara!)

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, Amy, and happy birthday week to you!

  • http://www.bernardshuford.com Bernard Shuford

    Don’t feel bad. Mine matches Hitler’s birthday…

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Don’t you feel bad either. It’s your day now. 🙂

  • http://janheath1234.wordpress.com Off the Wall

    Happy Birthday Tamara! My birthday is 11/15/54, the day Lionel Barrymore passed, Rosemary Clooney was topping the charts, and Lassie had 10 puppies. More importantly, November is a popular birthday month in my family – my dad, brother, brother-in-law, nephew, sister-in-law, and three of my closest friends. So rock on, November!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Happy almost-birthday!

  • http://www.mustardseedyear.com Jason

    I’m probably being way too simplistic but I think the coolest thing that happened on my birthday is that Johnny Cash recorded his landmark live album at Folsom Prison on my birthdate.

    I share the day with Trace Adkins and William Hung. It’s like the universe telling me that I’m not the best singer nor the worst.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Are you kidding? That is *very* cool.

  • http://reconcilingviewpoints.wordpress.com reconciling viewpoints

    My little brother was born on December 7th, Pearl Harbor day, which now ranks behind 9/11 as probably the worst day to have a birthday.

    I share a birthday (7/26) with Mick Jagger, which is a little weird. I wouldn’t mind having his talent, but I wouldn’t want to live his lifestyle.

    Does our government take a few weeks off and reconvene late in July? I googled to see what historical events happened (didn’t know) and found that the govt established lots of things on my birthday: the department that became the US postal service was commissioned in 1775; the Office that became the FBI started in 1908; and the Act that established the CIA, the Department of Defense, the Joint Chiefs of Staff and the US National Security Council was signed into law by President Truman on my birthday in 1947.

    Kind of freaky…. No wonder I feel paranoid and don’t trust a whole lot of people! 😛

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      The real question is do you have the moves like Jagger? 😉

      • http://reconcilingviewpoints.wordpress.com reconciling viewpoints

        If I do or if I don’t, I’d be too freaking paranoid to show ’em in public!

  • http://ironicmom.wordpress.com Leanne Shirtliffe

    My birthday (Jan 30) is consistently the coldest day in Canada. I hope this isn’t an example of cause and effect.

    And check your stats. You’ve been birthday searchbombed!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Cold hands, warm heart, eh? 🙂

      I had you under suspicion. Might you know anything about rocks?

  • http://www.giftsofthejourney.wordpress.com Elizabeth Harper

    Happy Birthday, Tamara. I hope today delivers some sweet surprises to counter your sad awareness.

    They call this time of year autumn in Cornwall, England where I live and you’re right it does sound much nicer than fall.

  • http://educlaytion.wordpress.com educlaytion

    Well done my friend. This post is just me style. See how I went Irish there? Yes, I teach Kristallnacht. Not pleasant. I’ve written about November 9th actually, way back in 2009 on the 20th anniversary of the fall of the Wall. So good catch you. Rock it like Pepa.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, Professor. 🙂

  • http://www.4thandgoals.com Jeff Williams

    Happy birthday! I did not have anything nearly as tragic or heroic happen on my date of birth, but here’s what I came up with:
    January 24
    -The beginning of the California Gold Rush (cool for those of us from the West coast)
    -The first Macintosh computer goes on sale (1984)
    -Tatyana Ali, Ed Helms, and Mary Lou Retton are truly the only notable names who were born on 1/24…along with myself of course!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Ed Helms is a great one! And I’d say Macs, too, but I’m a PC. 😉

  • http://www.mommyhoodadventures.com Carrie Duvall

    Happy Birthday! I hope your day has been absolutely wonderful!

    Out of curiosity, I googled the names of people born on my birthday (October 24th). The most interesting one I could come up with was BD Wong (Father of the Bride 1 & 2). Also, October 24th is United Nations Day.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you– so far, so good!

  • http://whoivealwaysbeen.blogspot.com Carolyn

    The National Football League was founded on my birthday. I’m swooning with pleasure. Cannot wait to tell Hubby!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Sounds like he’ll have extra reason to celebrate you from now on. 🙂

  • http://deepintolove.com Craig

    I looked and looked – the Battle of Marathon in 490 ish BC – a big win for the Greeks against the Persians who were being mean and trying to take over their empire – then after that September 12 kind of settles down. Since 2001 it’s been better known as the day after 9-11. Basically just a quiet little AUTUMN day – but THIS day – THIS day is your BIRTHDAY – so happy birthday Tamara ƪ(◠‿◠)╯ God bless and keep you and yours. (but mostly YOU cause it’s your birthday)

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Nice– you can’t go wrong with Greek history! Thanks for the birthday wishes!

  • http://deuceology.wordpress.com LarryTheDeuce

    I share a birthday with Amy Carter, Jimmy Carter’s daughter.

    Happy Birthday, Tamara

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks! Any relation? 😉

  • http://opentoadventure.wordpress.com Christian Emmett

    Happy Birthday Tamara!

    I share my birthday with Hugh Hefner, Dennis Quaid and Kristen Stewart, amongst others. The first full colour film was shown in London on my birth date in 1914, Bob Hope made his first TV appearance and Paul McCartney announced the official break-up of the Beatles!

    Happy Birthday again, I hope you got your decadent birthday cake! 🙂

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Aw, the breakup of the Beatles on your birthday? So sad!

      Thanks for the wishes– I had a very decadent dessert. 🙂

  • http://twitter.com/reneeronika Renee Ronika Klug (@reneeronika)

    Happy birthday again, Tamara. On my birthday (Sept. 5), it’s Teachers’ Day in India! Win-win for me–the half-Indian teacher.

    In other news, Jesse James (the outlaw not the ex-husband) and Bob Newhart share my birthday.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      “Not the ex-husband” hahahaha! Teacher’s Day in India– how fitting.

  • http://www.somuchshoutingsomuchlaughter.com suzannah {so much shouting, so much laughter}

    happy birthday, lady! love that R.S. debuted on your day:)

    bush bombed iraq on march 19, and i’ve spent more than a few birthdays engaged in peaceful demonstrations.

    cheers to you and a beautiful new year.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks! It does not surprise me at all that you’ve used your birthday to promote peace. xo

  • http://drgtjustwondering.blogspot.com Diana Trautwein

    Wow. Is this a record number of birthday greetings?? Pretty impressive… Let me add my own felicitations and say how nice it is for the rest of us that you were born. Hope your day was grand, filled with rich fall colors and a truly decadent cake. My own natal day is not particularly marked by greats – lots of Hollywood folk, but not too many truly important historical figures. But for me, it’s always been unique because it reads: 1.23.45. Yes, indeed. My dad thought I’d be a mathematician like he was. Fooled him!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I’m not big into math either, but that is a very cool birth date!

  • http://www.fromtracie.com Tracie

    Happy happy birthday to you!

    I couldn’t resist looking up my birthday, and it was shared by Francis Schaeffer, which made me happy,

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, Tracie!

  • http://dirtwithbreath.wordpress.com dirtwithbreath

    Happy Birthday! For yesterday

    2nd February:

    births – 1882 James Joyce
    – 1947 Farrah Fawcett
    – 1977 Shakira

    Also – 506 Alaric II, eighth king of the Visigoths promulgates The Breviary of Alaric (Breviarium Alaricianum or Lex Romana Visigothorum) a collection of Roman law. Well well.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Roman history– fun!

  • http://deborahbryan.wordpress.com Deborah the Closet Monster

    I’m late in my happy birthday wishes, so I’ll say–I hope your birthday was happy!

    Reading your reflections on your birthday was, for me, a gift.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you; it *was* happy. So glad the post blessed you.

  • http://101reasonstosmile.wordpress.com Abigail

    Happy Happy Birthday! =)

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, Abigail!

  • http://www.roydonkin.blogspot.com Roy

    a belated happy birthday! (which you share with my daughter)

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thank you, and happy day to your daughter too!

  • http://rasjacobson.com Renee Schuls-Jacobson

    Holy carp!

    Did I know you were a Scorpio! And I can’t believe I missed your birthday. And you were born on a shitty day to help undo some of it’s ugliness. You were born to bring light into the world.

    As I work on my own birthday post, I decided to take a break and catch up on other people. As usual, I’m so glad I did. As usual, I’m so glad your here. Happy belated birthday, T. 😉

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Are you a Scorpio too? Explains a lot about both of us, huh? 😉

      Thanks for the kind words. xo

  • http://www.misscontest.net Miss Contest

    happy birthday to you!!!

  • http://christiannoob.wordpress.com The Christian Noob (n00b)

    happy birthday!
    although several days late

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