Tamára Lunardo

Author & Editor



February 2012



Permit a Woman to Speak

Written by , Posted in faith, life, writing

There was much to-do on the Internet yesterday over a famous pastor and his ideas about the “feel” of Christianity. And the whole thing– yet another in a tiresome succession of divisive, hurtful arguments among the people who are meant to radiate Christ– was just too much for me. So I said only, “Grateful that Christianity is defined by Christ and not by famous pastors.”

That sucker got re-tweeted and “liked” like nobody’s business. And everyone, with their own particular leanings, might well have imagined a different famous pastor as they raised amen with the click of a mouse.

No matter whom you picture, it’s just as true. Yet we stand in our camps and argue til all we hear is the strain in our own voices. I’m tired, friends. I can’t do it, at least not today.

But there is one thing I can do, and it might even do just a tiny bit more good than all the arguing. Every Friday in 2012, my friend Ed Cyzewski is hosting a guest post for his Women in Ministry Series in order to encourage women to pursue their God-given callings. Today it’s my honor to contribute to the series with a post on tuning out the arguing and answering God’s call.

Please visit Ed’s blog for my post, Permit a Woman to Speak, and join the discussion there.

(But no arguing. I mean it.)

  • Carter

    Your heavily re-tweeted sentiment was a big point of Sunday’s sermon.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Sorry I missed it, but glad our church got to hear it. It’s an important message, and I’m grateful we have pastors who tell it.

  • http://stryka66.wordpress.com stryka66

    Bravo, sis – I reckon God may be heartily sick of these heartless word-mongers, too !!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Thanks, Alec.

  • bethsciallo

    Women have the ability to “just get on with it”….the dishes, the laundry, the deadlines, the lessons…even birthing babies…we get on with it. I’ve had the honour of seeing women carry the Light of Christ and just get on with it…while others fall into trenches and argue sides. They got on with it at the kitchen table, in the Sunday school class, in long skirts, in no make-up, in the jungle where nobody CARES if you’re female, as a nurse, as a mother, in the choir, in the streets, dishing food and a smile. They get one with it when their leader husband passes on and no-one recognizes that they were a TEAM. They love, reach out, take the small meeting in the back room. And now I get to stand on those beautiful shoulders and get up front, hold the mic, lead the worship, paint the picture, write the words..and get on with shining the Light of Jesus wherever darkness tries to hide. Do we hit walls? sure. Do we argue with the wall? Not my calling. When we say “yes” to His leading and giftings, He opens the doors. My job is to walk through… and get on with it.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Awesome. So grateful you’re answering your calling. I just hope I can be a set of shoulders for the next gals to stand on.

      • bethsciallo

        You already are…with bells on!

  • http://exfake.com Bernard Shuford

    Nothing I’ve EVER said has been “re-tweeted and liked like nobody’s business”, so obviously your voice is worthy of being heard 🙂

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Your voice is no less worthy just because it’s not as loud, brother. Thanks for using it to speak encouragement to me.

  • http://buddybagwell.blogspot.com Buddy Bagwell

    This is my favorite of all the blogs since I started following you. You know I am a FAN! GREAT JOB… GREAT BLOG… GREAT SERMON… GREAT LESSON!!!


    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      You have always been such an encouragement. Thank you, Buddy.

  • http://gravatar.com/throughgrayeyes Through Gray Eyes

    I’m glad I missed the bruhawhaw. I don’t feel like getting riled up today.

    I love what you’ve written over in your guest post. I really like how you said that when we are called to use a gift we just use it and say thank you. A humble thank you.

    It reminds me of that song, Breath of Heaven, in which Mary asks, “Do you wonder as you watch my face if a wiser one should have had my place? But I offer all I am for the mercy of your plan. Help me be strong. Help me be. Help me.”

    I think that’s what I have to remember – offer all I am for the mercy of His plan, not mine. And so some day I might be called to speak and other times to listen. (Right now it’s definitely time to listen.)

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      Such a good point, that it’s about being a part of His plan, not pushing our own.

  • http://studentsofjesus.com Ray Hollenbach

    Nice work, Tamara, both here and at Ed’s site. Being quarrelsome is tiring and unfulfilling now matter what side you’re on. Extending grace and peace is sometimes tiring but always fulfilling. Blessings to you!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      “Extending grace and peace is sometimes tiring but always fulfilling.” Yes! Thank you.

  • http://reconcilingviewpoints.wordpress.com reconciling viewpoints

    I saw your tweet go by and thought it was related to that other pastor you referenced as well, having missed the hubbub that you were actually responding too.
    I get tired of the arguing too…. I typically try to act as a peacemaker (there is a reason my blog has the name it does), but it can wear you out, and sometimes it feels futile.
    Hang in there…. and don’t become weary in doing good, as the scripture says (too weary to look it up right now! 😉

    Gotta go read the post at Ed’s site. Actually, I’ve got to finish a project for work, but I will get back over and read the post at Ed’s site later!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I really do see you as a peacemaker, Dan. Thank you for that.

  • http://havemyword.wordpress.com Shae

    Much like what Ghandi said: I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians.

    Thanks goodness it’s not up to us in the end 🙂

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I like a lot of His Christians, but point most certainly taken. 🙂

  • http://tammygrrrl.wordpress.com Tammy Perlmutter

    This was great, Tamara. I needed to hear this. It’s been so heavy on my heart lately. And the struggle has been so real in my life that I am exhausted by it too. Thanks for leading me to Ed’s blog. I’m excited to see what happens!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. If this was any encouragement at all, I’m grateful.

  • http://tconp.wordpress.com Matt @ The Church of No People

    Amen, Tamara. It’s just too much. I think I may have to write a flame war inducing blog post about all the arguing happening in Christianity. 😉

    • http://tamaraoutloud.com/ Tamara

      You keep your famous-pastor rabble-rousing to yourself! 🙂

      • http://tconp.wordpress.com Matt @ The Church of No People

        Too late, it’s done! But it’s not what you think. It’ll be up on Wednesday.

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