Tamara Out Loud

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Friday

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August 2014

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We All Face the Sun Together

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sunset

I saw the sand. I saw my own melting-pot family. I saw a topless young mom and her son. I saw the water. I saw an old southern man. I saw an Indian toddler. I saw couples in love. I saw the sun. I saw God at the beach one late afternoon. I’d love for you to join me at A Deeper Story today so you can see too. Photo: Patricia Baumann (c) 2014

Friday

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May 2014

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The Fight

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The Fight

You fought for a life that I couldn’t live; I fought for a love that you couldn’t give. We fought and we lost, and we lost one another. Will we ever recover from loving each other?

Tuesday

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May 2012

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The Resurrection Power, Now

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We sat on the bed, strained throats fighting to articulate sense. Easter was a few days past, and I halfheartedly ate the mini gourmet chocolate bunny; it tasted good but it made no difference at all. I told him something was missing, something I couldn’t place but that I needed desperately to have, something that mattered to the whole of me and to my being whole. I folded the gold wrapper, not into my quirky trademark perfect, tiny square, but back into the form of the bunny, now two-dimensional, empty. Our conversation careened us on a trajectory that terrified us [...]

Friday

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May 2012

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Mr. Tamara Out Loud Tells All!

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Last week I took your questions for the man who sees me in sweatpants and a night guard and sleeps with me anyway. Today, he’s got answers! Some of them made me tear up, most of them made me crack up– and all of them pretty much made me fall in love with him all over again. Here’s my Bryan. –Tamára _______________________________________________________ bethsciallo: What do you do with the kids when mom is in the writing “zone”?   It depends– when she is writing in the house, there is typically a lot of yelling and screaming (plus whatever noises the kids [...]

Friday

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April 2012

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Ask Mr. Tamara Out Loud!

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If you’ve been here a while, you know a lot about me, from my choices in footwear to my spiritual beliefs to my broad range of neuroses. And this is fine with me because this is what I do: I put a lot of myself out there because it’s the best way I know to tell stories. But I do not impose this on anyone else. Not every story is mine to tell, and I am fiercely protective of the people I love. And, unfortunately, this means you haven’t gotten to know the man behind the woman behind the blog. [...]

Tuesday

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March 2012

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More Than Kisses

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I was 17 and done dating the blond boy– for real this time, this second stupid time. In fact, I was done dating boys altogether. They were all hormones and hands, clueless and callous about a girl’s heart, and, aside from some fun in a parked car in the dark, they were just not worth the trouble. So when my best friend said I had to meet her boyfriend’s friend because she  just knew he was perfect for me, I said there was just really no way. But she was a little on the pushy side, and my no-boys-allowed stance [...]

Friday

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February 2012

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Guest Post: “Tips to Staying Married from Someone Who Didn’t”

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Today’s guest post comes from Cory Copeland of Mad to Love. Cory is regularly smart, thoughtful, and funny. And for a guy who’s not married, he gives pretty solid relationship advice, too. Enjoy! –Tamara (What’s up with all the guest posts around here lately?) _______________________________________________________ Let me start this post off with a bit of honesty: I have a divorce under my belt. I’m only 26. Winning? I think not. I was married at the tender—yet foolish—age of 19. And though I felt I possessed all the romantic wisdom the world had to offer (who doesn’t at 19, right?!), my [...]

Wednesday

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February 2012

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When Words Become Flesh

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I write monthly for A Deeper Story, where the group of us is blessed to tell stories of Christ and culture, given space both to wrestle hard and to weave soft. We tell the small stories so we might better know the Grand Story, and we sit in a virtual circle beside that space’s dear readers, shoulder to shoulder but for computer screens and miles, a community built on words and the Word. But we remember that the Word became flesh. And this Word-become-flesh brought light to our dark world, not in virtual community but in dwelling among us. And [...]

Friday

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December 2011

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Guest Post: “From the Inside Out”

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Today’s guest post comes from Diana Trautwein of Just Wondering. A retired pastor and lovely lady, Diana is always an encouragement to me. I hope you learn from her wisdom and enjoy her writing as much as I did. –Tamara _______________________________________________________ I sit here in the warm sunlight, enjoying the Pacific Ocean as it rolls onto the sands of a nearby beach. It’s a day alone for me– a rare treat. Even in this first full year of retirement, I’m finding it hard to do. It took me a long time to learn how much I need this– time spent [...]

Friday

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December 2011

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Gray-Sweatshirt Sexy

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I know sexy. I know the right pair of heels speeds up my man’s heart rate. I know a little cleavage makes his thoughts go a long way. I know black lace sends clear signals. And I like to use what I know. But sometimes I just need cozy; I need comfort; I need calm. So I go into our closet and I put on the sexiest thing I can find. I put on his gray hoodie sweatshirt. My husband’s sweatshirt is at least two sizes too big for me– it couldn’t cling to my curves if it tried. And [...]