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Friday

22

August 2014

2

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We All Face the Sun Together

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sunset

I saw the sand. I saw my own melting-pot family. I saw a topless young mom and her son. I saw the water. I saw an old southern man. I saw an Indian toddler. I saw couples in love. I saw the sun. I saw God at the beach one late afternoon. I’d love for you to join me at A Deeper Story today so you can see too. Photo: Patricia Baumann (c) 2014

Friday

30

May 2014

5

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The Fight

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The Fight

You fought for a life that I couldn’t live; I fought for a love that you couldn’t give. We fought and we lost, and we lost one another. Will we ever recover from loving each other?

Tuesday

15

May 2012

2

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The Resurrection Power, Now

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We sat on the bed, strained throats fighting to articulate sense. Easter was a few days past, and I halfheartedly ate the mini gourmet chocolate bunny; it tasted good but it made no difference at all. I told him something was missing, something I couldn’t place but that I needed desperately to have, something that mattered to the whole of me and to my being whole. I folded the gold wrapper, not into my quirky trademark perfect, tiny square, but back into the form of the bunny, now two-dimensional, empty. Our conversation careened us on a trajectory that terrified us […]

Wednesday

15

February 2012

3

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When Words Become Flesh

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I write monthly for A Deeper Story, where the group of us is blessed to tell stories of Christ and culture, given space both to wrestle hard and to weave soft. We tell the small stories so we might better know the Grand Story, and we sit in a virtual circle beside that space’s dear readers, shoulder to shoulder but for computer screens and miles, a community built on words and the Word. But we remember that the Word became flesh. And this Word-become-flesh brought light to our dark world, not in virtual community but in dwelling among us. And […]

Monday

10

October 2011

57

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Grace for the Everyday

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I write about grace a lot. Probably because I think about it a lot. Probably because I need it a lot. When I catch even a hint of a suggestion that someone wants to place limits on grace, I am all intensity and vehemence. I think that those of us who have felt most deeply our need of grace are usually the ones most ready to defend its depth and breadth, its transcendence and permanence. But I wonder: Do I actually, practically give grace a lot? I have all sorts of philosophical grace for people who have done terrible wrongs […]

Friday

7

October 2011

93

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Grab Somebody Sexy, Tell ‘Em What?!

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Thanks to the premature and highly inconvenient demise of my car’s CD player, coupled with my inability to drive without a soundtrack,  I’ve been forced to listen to the radio lately. This has resulted in repeated brain pukes as well as frequent outbursts of exasperation. (One of my two-year olds recently announced, “I don’t like this song!” and her twin demanded, “Put on Chuck Ragan!” For my part, I usually just threaten the radio with death.) It has also resulted in slight alarm. When I started paying attention to some of the abundant lyrics about the dating scene, I wondered […]

Wednesday

27

July 2011

5

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This Means Church

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My pastor once said that choosing a church was a little like getting married: You don’t hop around from one to the next; You “date” the same one for a while, and then you commit. But how do you handle doubts about the one you chose? *** Please visit A Deeper Story to read the rest of today’s post!

Wednesday

6

October 2010

15

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On Being Friends with People Sporting Equipment

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A recent ad campaign for a men’s body wash had some people shocked and offended. It made a not-so-subtle play on words by demonstrating its ability to clean sporting equipment, namely, balls. Adult humor rarely shocks or offends me (usually because I’m too busy snickering at it) but I understand people’s objections to the needless sexualization of a toiletry item. I get that it can be offensive to assign sexual meaning where none exists. People do it to each others’ friendships all the time. The question of whether heterosexual male-female friendships can remain platonic is one that comes up among […]