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May 2014

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Monday

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March 2013

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Mixtape Mondays: Breakup

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I had the pleasure of hosting Allison Weiss and her band this weekend when they stopped in my city on their March Radness tour. They put on a great show and are great people, as evidenced by the fact that I gave Allison my last Mega Stuf Oreo. You don’t do that for just anyone, let me tell you. Allison played my favorite songs of hers at the show, and she talked a little bit about breakups before one of them– “Making it Up.” And I thought about how, maybe more than any other topic, breakups are such a common [...]

Monday

4

March 2013

25

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Mixtape Mondays: Speak

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Last week was a huge landmark for What a Woman is Worth: After almost a year and a half of hard work and avoidance, of tears and triumph, I sent in the manuscript to the publisher. I ended up writing more of my own life story than I ever imagined I would, which made it far more difficult than I anticipated, but now that it’s done, I find enormous relief in having spoken. There is something powerful about voice, about speaking, about opening up yourself in a way that you might really be heard. So today’s theme is “speak,” and [...]

Monday

25

February 2013

1

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Mixtape Mondays: 100

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This week I will finish the manuscript for What a Woman is Worth, and although it’s been a 16-month process, it has felt like my whole life. This week will also mark 100 days since an enormous, unexpected life change. And as I see my own story come out of me and into pages that I thought were just my project, I see that it is my whole life. It’s been 33 years in the writing and who knows how much longer and where the story will go. So I’m just inking out honesty best I can and letting go [...]

Monday

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February 2013

20

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Mixtape Mondays: House & Home

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I have always been fascinated by old houses. I grew up in a beautiful Victorian house in New England, and I was forever on the search for secret passageways– I just felt sure the house had some great adventures hidden within. I never found a passage, but I did manage to lift the old heating grate out of my second-story bedroom floor and drop a bucket down on a string into the kitchen in the middle of my parents’ party. I’m pretty sure they humored me by filling the bucket with whatever my requested item was, but the real glory [...]

Monday

11

February 2013

11

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Mixtape Mondays: Ghosts

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I’ve been hard at work the past week writing my section introductions for What a Woman is Worth, and by that I mean, “having emotional breakdowns and hardly writing at all.” I am faced once again with ghosts of my past, and I will exorcise them– turn them from passive memory into active story, and I will be well– but the getting there is damned hard. So this week’s theme is “ghosts.” For those interested in joining the blog link-up, take inspiration from these songwriters’ different uses of the ghost metaphor– a thing, person, or memory that haunts you; an [...]

Monday

4

February 2013

25

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Mixtape Mondays: Covered

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Last week I began Mixtape Mondays with the simple idea of sharing some good music here because music and writing are my hand-in-hand loves, and I know the same is true for a lot of the people who read this blog. But because I’m doing it thematically and because a big part of my job as an editor is helping people direct their thoughts toward better writing, I quickly realized the potential the series has to be a writing prompt. So I’m including a link-up at the bottom of the post for anyone who’d like to participate– just come back and [...]

Friday

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May 2012

101

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Getting Lucky: How I Got an Agent (plus a giant giveaway!)

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Two things you should know: I wasn’t going to tell this story, and if I could give you all a plate of my hot chocolate chip cookies, I really would. A few weeks ago, I shared  my exciting news that I’d gotten a literary agent, and you were generous with your happiness for me. I wanted to thank each person who left me a congratulatory comment, but the comments section yells at me with warning messages when I try to leave a duplicate reply, and I don’t know 70-something ways to say, “Thank you so much. Your support means everything [...]

Friday

11

May 2012

54

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You Can’t Say That On TOL

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I think because TOL is a place to say what you often can’t elsewhere, a lot of the guest post submissions I get are either very vulnerable or very boundary-pushing. Posts like these can be wonderful because vulnerability allows for community and connection, and pushing boundaries can create more space to think and grow. You can see that I do a lot of this in my own writing, but what you may not see is that I take a lot of care to walk an often thin and tremulous line between saying everything that I think and saying everything that [...]

Wednesday

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May 2012

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