Tamára Lunardo

Author & Editor



January 2011



When the World Breaks Your Heart

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I think that tragedy shows us something about our hearts.

This week, our family lost a dearly loved one. I grieved for my husband’s broken heart at the loss of his lifelong role model. I looked on as embraces turned to tears. I laughed at wonderful memories retold and cried at the sorrow they renewed. And I see that the hearts most filled with love bear the heaviest burdens.

Last week, an ill person in Arizona targeted a politician, and 20 people were injured or killed in his rampage. Pointed fingers jabbed across party lines, and vitriolic voices screamed to out-do one another. And all I could see, all I could hear, all I could feel through the cacophony was that a nine-year-old girl was dead.

I shared my thoughts on Twitter: Let’s leave the bullshit politics out of it. A child is dead. My heart aches.

And I received this reply: Children die all the time, from guns for other reasons, or from other things. You must have one achy-breaky busy heart.

That response was callous, but it was true. My heart is often busy aching because it’s forced to beat in a broken world. It beats and it breaks, out of place. And I see that my heart wasn’t made for this world.

No matter our religious or spiritual beliefs, we all have the common grace to see that something is not right– something about our world is broken.

“Children die all the time” because something is not right. Political rhetoric is used to dismiss real tragedy because something is not right.  Insidious disease renders bodies ill beyond repair because something is not right. Beloved brides and grooms are separated by death because something is not right.

But if it is a common grace that allows us to recognize the brokenness, it is an extraordinary grace that allows us to recognize the healing. And I see that only broken hearts seek the Healer.

  • http://www.kelybreez.com kelybreez

    Ugh… I feel this.

    The whole response to the shooting saddened me so much. Honestly, I couldn’t believe the things we humans were saying.

    I guess we’ve all got broken hearts. I wanna be one who realizes mine is broken, and therefore I go to the Healer, rather than a person who thinks my heart is fine.

    So sorry for your husband’s loss.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      I’m with you– knowing the Healer is worth feeling the brokenness.

  • http://mydescentintomadness.wordpress.com Tim Lundmark

    Our world is broken because of human greed. This greed is passed on generation by generation by the media, peers, and parents. We live in a country which we are taught the idea of an American Dream and the concept of stepping on those who are in our way. We have breeded generation after generation of people who are selfish and think only of themselves. If this was not the case the guy on twitter would not have said that. To not cringe over the death of a child is yet another example of a country gone wrong.

  • Carey

    The day will come, Mari. Isaiah 11:1-10. Rev. 21: 3-4. Two of the most beautiful and hopeful passages in the bible.

  • http://www.versalytics.com Redge

    Times of crisis are not only trying but very revealing … and when the rooster crowed for the third time … it broke my heart.

    Perhaps not everyone learns the same lesson, but eventually we all learn.

    Sorry to hear of your loss, the healer reigns.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      Haven’t seen you in so long– thanks for stopping by, Redge!

  • Mom

    Oh my sweet girl, your gifts of insight and eloquence help our Great Healer mend this broken world. Thank you.

  • http://aubstar.wordpress.com Aubstar


    Never apologize for a broken heart. Because it just means that you are doing something right. I bet that in the end its the meek and broken-hearted that will inherit the blessings of a God who loves us.

    If they can’t feel or acknowledge the tragic state of this world we live in, then I think its they who are missing something.

  • http://www.hopefulleigh.blogspot.com HopefulLeigh

    I work at a children’s hospital and for hospice before that. I hope that I never become callous to the loss of life. It doesn’t matter how it happened or to whom, loss is loss. At the very least, it should make us all pause and take stock of our lives and renew our appreciation for our loved ones.

  • http://windowsandpaperwalls.wordpress.com Windows and Paper Walls

    So beautiful, as always.

    So sorry for your loss. Sending you a big hug. XOXO

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      Thanks for your sympathy & for the hug. 🙂

  • Lauren Relyea

    I’m sorry for your loss. My heart breaks with yours.


    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      Thanks, friend.

  • http://peculiarqueer.wordpress.com cubbie storm

    i think the thing that is breaking my heart in this is so many of the people who are screaming vitriol also claim to be on the healer’s side… claim to be his spokespeople… and in so doing, drive so many people away. it reminds me of this time i saw graffiti that said “fags hate god,” in, i’m assuming, a response to all the “god hates fags” stuff… and my response was, “of course. that is the logical response. and it is very very sad.”

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      That makes me sad too. Very sad.

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  • http://www.mustardseedyear.com Jason

    In 1982, Don Henley released his song “Dirty Laundry” that is nothing more than a scathing indictment of the American media and how “crap is king.” I spent over 20 years in broadcasting where it was always a race to be the first on the scene to a tragedy and find the way to get the dirt no one else was able to get. The media fueled response to Arizona sickened but didn’t surprise me. The internet just provides more outlets for the “media” to bring the dirt.

    I’m so sorry for your husband’s loss. 🙁

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      Thank you for your compassion.

  • http://silly-bear.com Sarah

    I worry about what it says about us as a nation and as Christians when we become accustomed to loss and death. Death was never meant to be apart of humanity’s narrative so any death should jar our hearts. We should be aching for these families in Arizona, for the families who experience death in our local communities because we are called to love those who are hurting.

    I’m sorry for your family’s loss. Prayers said for y’all.

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      Excellent point– life wasn’t meant for death; of course it feels wrong.

      Thanks for your sympathy & prayers.

  • http://www.tonyjalicea.com Tony Alicea

    Wow, this is SO good. This is such great perspective in the midst of chaos and pain.

  • http://movethemountains.blogspot.com ChadJ

    This is my first time visiting your blog. Terribly sorry for your husband’s loss.

    Death is not the original, natural order of things. Jesus Himself was indignant at Lazarus’ death in John 11–so we should be upset, too. I rather not contemplate the alternative to having a tender heart–one that isn’t moved by loss and tragedy. In the words of Donne, “No man is an island.” We’re all in this together.

    Thanks for sharing your heart!

    • http://tamaraoutloud.wordpress.com Tamara

      Thank you for your sympathy and for letting me know it was your first visit. I hope you’ll be back again. 🙂

  • http://www.abrahamchronicles.com Dustin

    “But if it is a common grace that allows us to recognize the brokenness, it is an extraordinary grace that allows us to recognize the healing.” Loved that last line. I appreciate your thoughts and perspective.

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